How to deal with an introverted friend

The Introverts Series got popular! If you missed the 2 parts here they are:

Part 1 Unravel the introvert

Part 2 The perks of being an introvert

So I of course created my list on How To Deal With An Introverted Friend

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1__ do you remember when I told you about how good an introverted person as a friend is! Do you go to them because they are truthful and they keep your secrets! Now let me explain why introverted highly prefer staying alone after something bad has happened to them! Because they are just like you. Would prefer to go for them! When they need someone to talk to!! They simply go consult themselves! They are professional therapist anyway (wink). 

2__ Don’t let me feel I am left alone just because I prefer to set alone to charge myself.. Please don’t!! if there is someone who is over (we stopped being friends because we stooped to talk to each other) is introverts, because they cherish their friends. 

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3__ Don’t go behind my back just because I am not social as much as you do! because it hurts a lot! Don’t go every time to new places without telling me. You can always tell me, even though you know I will not go to that event with you!

4__ Would you love to know why I leave parties on (an early time)! because I get a headache!! I am not partying human as much as you do!I am the opposite of what everyone else thinks! I am satisfied with a limited time for what we call ( FUN) So don’t pull too hard on that limb! When I have my fun I leave!

5__ I take more time to heal than anybody else! So Don’t rush it, it pushes me down!

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6__ You probably asked yourself a lot?! Why am I setting alone for most of my time? Isn’t kinda boring and stupid!! NO IT IS NOT!! and you don’t have the right to judge me!! (moody/ antisocial/ hate people/ unsophisticated/ .. and the list goes on). As I said I am self sufficient I entertain myself. 

7__ What the hell with “Stop Inviting Me to Plans” ?! I am not ignoring you nor I am antisocial! I just have many things going on my head and being alone sort them out! Besides, spending time with myself (and not Alone) It equals to the good activities that you do with people! Yes it does. First, I like to work so much on my hobbies, a lot. Second, the creative side in me is at its BEST. I am still a cool friend to you , otherwise you wouldn’t talk to me!

8__ Which leads to the next point. I unconsciously prefer quality time! In another word ” Time with family and close friends ”

9__ I aren’t exhibit anxiety around people! No I am not suffering from anxiety and I am not uncertain or irresolute, but I take time to think,  and make my choices, because I can’t jump into every event like extroverts do. 

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10__ Finally, and I am not sure if all introverted folks agree with this, BUT PLEASE be honest with me no matter what! I appreciate your honesty weather it’s now or later, that’s up to me, when I figure things out! but what I am sure of is.. I like honesty!

 

Am I missing something introverts? Let me know in the comments below.

Cheers! 

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The perks of being an introvert!

see part 1 of this series ? Unravael the Introvert

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Part 1 – Unravael the Introvert

#1 — Self learning : Is unlimited to a time or a a place. You love to spend time alone , and You don’t need an individual to teach you something, which isn’t a skill everybody has. It explains why you are a step ahead than your peers.

#2 — Real Genius :  If you are capable of teaching yourself, or to look into sources to find an information without a help, you spare yourself a lot of time for the learning process! And then, you would do something even better! Such as gaining more knowledge about a particular subject or a science! You’re smart enough to do this alone with full confidence and readiness!

#3 — You Don’t waste your time: If you asked me what is the one thing I hate the most, and will continue to hate for ever.. It got to be “I hate wasting my time”.  I hate someone who wastes my time and keeping me waiting!! Who let me wait for his late work he/she didn’t hand!

#4 — Punctuality : Your friends mock you for being on time, but showing up early gave you advantages. Being on time helped you build your professional reputation.

#5 — Have Your mind focused 24/7 : It is such a great feeling having it all!! Everything is done, organized. I am not in a rush running every day to my destination! Most importantly.. Everyone is happy with me, and my WORK!

#6 — Everyone hates you, but you gave them a good reason to! They hate us because we don’t talk too much!! that is stupid!! And For all of the above reasons.. people tends to envy you. Like how the hell are you that lonely person, but you are the one who everyone gives a credit to?! -because you were wrong about me- and I love when I am RIGHT.

#7 — Your company doesn’t take you out of focus : Introverts never distrait, at least grownups one. If they are kind of distracted, they must think of something serious. Besides, choosing the right company for the right place make them enjoy the moment! Make them FOCUSED.

#8 — You do others a favor by being aware in the surrounding environment : Sometimes no one appreciates the little help you did to them, like following them to hand them their key when they dropped it while day dreaming! But it means a lot to you because you are a GIVER.

#9 — You are a friendly person even if you can’t see it : Not all introverts want to punch everyone in the face! We aren’t crazy, and we don’t have anger issues! Besides our minds full of much good things than everyone thinks of us! Introverts do good deeds, and it comes purely from their hearts! Which make them very good people.

#10 — You are safe from many troubles extroverts jumps in: This privilege has become my favorite lately, because I see how my colleagues rush in, being reckless, jump in conclusions, while my inner peace holds me back from embarrassing myself. I like to call it “setting in an angle position”. It doesn’t only saved me from troubles, it helped to build up my confidence.

 

What is your perks of being an introvert? am I missing something? Let me know in the comments below.